It’s not a WANT, it’s a NEED

Hey, Guy’s I know it been a while since I’ve posted anything but I’ve been so busy juggling writing books, being a mom, and trying to find that motivation. I will try to post something once a day…keyword (TRY).

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Do you know what it feels like to crave something? to the point were every fiber in your being comes to life when you hear its name? That’s how I feel about BDSM, ever since watching the movie 50 Shads of Gray, it’s all I can think about, all I read about, and all I hear. I know they say curiosity killed the cat; in this instance, I would hope that’s exactly what happens (lol). I never thought I’d be the type to be into something like that, to be honest, I never considered myself to be submissive, I’ve never craved to be controlled or dominated. Not only is it not common in my culture but also in my household, So where did this need come from? was it always there? Is it why I’ve always craved more during sex? I honestly don’t know the answer to those questions, but I feel once I dive into the lifestyle I will be both nervous and excited about what I manage to uncover. I have spoken to a couple “DOMs”, and each has said, “you won’t really know how you will feel about the lifestyle until you try it”.

My mind goes into hyperdrive when I try to think about all the things that could happen to me, I also have my fears and I think that’s what’s stopping me from diving head first into the lifestyle. The biggest fear I have is being seen as a slave… I understand that’s a terminology that’s widely used in BDSM, however, as a black woman “SLAVE”, just isn’t something I want to be called. I don’t even know if I could process or categorize it as anything other than racist, many of my friends agree. Honestly, I believe that’s why most African Americans won’t even consider trying BDSM; the first thing they say is ” Oh hell naw I’m not about to be whipped across my back calling someone master”. What I will say is, I understand where they’re coming from, however, something in me still longs for that lifestyle.  My second biggest fear is that I’ll meet the wrong Dom, and instead find some crazy person hiding behind the lifestyle preying on women. I don’t want to get severely hurt or worst killed, you can never fully trust a person and that scares me.`

It’s simple I want something more than just the traditional intercourse that leads to you going on your way and me going mine. I don’t want a “yes man”, and ladies I’m sure whether you choose to admit it or not we’ve all come across the yes man. You know the man that says ” it doesn’t matter to me, its whatever you want”, they never put up and argument or debate about anything and they let you walk all over them; making all of the choices in the relationship. Ya’ll know what I’m talking about, nothing irks me more than a man that allows me to march all over him, I don’t want to be in control in the relationship but I won’t just bend for anyone. I need to be broken like a wild stallion.

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When most people see this they shy away from it or claim that its some form of abuse, however, I see passion, I see two people so lost in each other. I see something that I crave and want, I see a man, not an abuser but a man smitten by his partner, I see a woman so lost in the love she has for him. I see art, beautiful raw art; something that in the “vanilla” world doesn’t exist; I’ve lived the vanilla life all of my life and never once have I felt this kind of passion. Never have I ever felt the feeling of being craved by a man, never have I ever experienced what it was like to truly trust in your mate. To have someone know your body, and push your body pass limits you didn’t even know you had, who wouldn’t want that? what woman would want to feel protected, owned, adored, by their significant other? To the point where you’re the only one he sees? to be the object of his desire on a level no other woman could ever interfere not compete with? I don’t know about you ladies but I want that and I’m not ashamed to say it….

Of all the classifications that fall under BDSM, I’d like to think I would relate more to a middle/ sub rather than anything else. I don’t want to dominate nor control a man I’m trying to relinquish control, I say I’m middle because I have some of the characteristics of a little. I like teddy bear:), cuddle sessions, I love to color, I love everything artsy, I love to watch cartoons and I mean all day I’d prefer Disney movies and cartoons to regular t.v. In all honesty, I’m a big kid lol, I’m not ashamed of it, its who I am; I’m a brat I can be very mischevious and I love to challenge when I can but I’m not blatantly defiant.  However, unlike a little I don’t do baby talk, nor do I do pacifiers, bottles etc; its just not my thing but I need the softer dom, someone gentle and nurturing but still firm and strict, and I still need to be put in my place from time to time 🙂 hey I like to play. So I have only one thing left to say

 Daddy Dominate me, please…

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Journey to becoming a self-published writer

One of the hardest yet bravest things I’ve ever done would probably be self-publishing my book. It has its many ups and downs, there are risks of people stealing your material, but the highest risk of all is… FAILURE. I don’t have million dollar publishing companies backing me up, it’s just me and my book against the world lol. You know what they say you miss 99% of the shots you don’t take. So I decided to take a shot, hey!, this could go nowhere but the only thing I would be losing is time. As my mother use to tell me “you’re going to spend life doing something, why not make it something that you could benefit from”.

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My Top 5 Worst Pregnancy Symptoms

If someone were to tell me I’d be raising a child on my own, I’d probably say “get the hell out of here”. I had it all planned out, I’d finish school, meet the man of my dreams, get married, and then have 3 beautiful children. You know what they say ” when you plan your life, god laughs” because I guess somewhere along the line I must have messed up the plans. Being a single mother isn’t as easy as I thought it would be, my pregnancy was horrible; my pregnancy symptoms kicked my butt out of all these are my top 5.

Sick and Pregnant Morning Sickness

I’m sure most if not every woman who becomes pregnant, has or will experience morning sickness. Now if you know me I’m somewhat dramatic, so if anything happens to me I’m going to enhance it times 10. Well let me tell you there was know enhancing this, I was miserable for the first 15 weeks of my pregnancy, YES! that’s right 15weeks of nausea, diarrhea, and projectile vomiting. I wouldn’t wish those feelings on my worst enemy. I couldn’t eat anything, and the food I could stomach taste bland; like the sensation you get when you burn your tongue and nothing taste the same afterward. I’m sure every woman has asked this question; who the heck called it MORNING SICKNESS? Especially when the morning isn’t the only time you get sick, I had morning sickness, afternoon sickness, and evening sickness. They should just call it always sickness.

ca Cravings

Ha, Ha, Ha, funny story; when I was pregnant I had a craving for potatoes and root beer; I didn’t care what kind of potatoes. It could have been poached, fried, boiled, mashed, just as long as it was potatoes. I didn’t even know it was having cravings until one morning I woke up, and all I could think about was potatoes and root beer ( I don’t even like root beer). It was soo bad that I found myself calling around to restaurants asking them if they had root beer and potatoes. To make a long story short they did have potatoes but not root beer and I found myself crying until my brother called me and told me to come to his job and he would get them for me. Honestly, that’s one pregnancy symptom I could do without because not only will it make you fat but can you imagine how crazy we loo crying because we can’t get food and there’s nothing we can do about it?

hormones Hormones

I’m sure every man can understand me when I say ” dealing with a pregnant woman’s mood swings has to be the scariest time of your lives”. I’m sure my son’s father can vouch for me because I was all over the place I mean literally all over the place. One minute I was crying (I mean listening to sad music, tissue, and trying to eat ice cream sad); then I was pissed and not just slightly pissed. I wanted to literally kill people; at the time my I was dealing with a lot of drama from my son’s father, and we were arguing like cats and dogs (we’re not together now). When I became pregnant it enhanced and I wanted to gift him. I couldn’t stand the site of him like I literally couldn’t and usually, I loved being around him. He thought I was just being mean to him and we would fight about that; he would make up with me and try to kiss me and I would physically gag. That’s right ladies after a while I literally couldn’t kiss him without getting sick. Let’s just say our relationships stayed on the rocks during my pregnancy.

dr Constant Dr. Visit’s

Ladies, if you don’t like going to the Dr’s office now; wait till you get pregnant. I hated it, every time I turned around I was at the Dr’s office; getting probed, stuck, touched and I hated every second of it. I was constantly scared going in there because I didn’t know what to expect, don’t get me wrong I had a great Dr. However, it’s still a Dr. none the less.

sleepy Sleepless Night’s

Honestly I don’t know how my body survived being pregnant, I didn’t get any sleep; no matter how many pillows I had sleep wouldn’t come to me. I use to cry at night because I was so sleep deprived; it got to the point that I had to sleep on the couch sitting upright because that was the only way I could feel comfortable. 

IMG_0785 At the end of the day, he was so worth it and I would do it all over again; if I knew he was the outcome. No, raising him on my own wasn’t something I would’ve expected; but he is a blessing and when you’re given a blessing you don’t ask why? You hold on to it, nurture it and pray that what you’re doing is enough to make it a beautiful member of society.

 

Until next time…

 

My Top 5 Contradictory Standards

So I was having a conversation with one of my friends and he asked me what was my preference when It came to dating. I said I like Caucasian men, and he asked “why? that’s just weird”. I looked at him for a good ten minutes because this is the same guy, that has dated multiple Caucasian women; he is still currently seeing one as we speak. So I turned to him and said, “what do you mean you have a white girlfriend?”, “Well that’s ok but when you do it it’s just weird” is what he said. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing, what kind of hypocrite nonsense was he spitting. However, it got me to thinking besides this, what other double standards are there? Well turns out there are quite a few, but I will only address the 5 I thought were very “touchy”.

Top 5 Double Standards  

1, SEXUAL HARASSMENT:  aa

I read this article where this guy was at this nightclub, and this girl was continuously grinding all over him, all he wanted to do was have a drink but the girl wouldn’t listen. He stated had the roles been reversed he would’ve been thrown out the club for harassment. I understand why he would think this way, being a woman I’ve always noticed when I went out with my friends if a guy rubbed himself all over a woman they were bound to be kicked out the club. In the same breath if a woman sexually harasses a man its considered ok, um news flash IT’S NOT OK!. It doesn’t matter if your a woman, man no one wants to be sexually harassed, and even though society has made everyone believe men are dogs and want to sleep with everything. There are some men out there who actually don’t want to be bothered, and if they say no then they mean NO. There needs to be equal rules and treatment against this it’s totally one-sided because when a man complains he is seen as “gay”.

2, Hitting:  download

This has to be hands down the most controversial and debated topic and let me tell you where I stand on the matter, LADIES it is not and I repeat NOT ok to put your hands on a man. This topic hit’s close to home, because I have had friends personally involved in this matter; if a man puts his hands on a women society and the world comes down on him like a storm cloud. His reputation, as well as his manhood, is called to judgment, I’ve seen men thrown behind bars for putting their hands on a woman. The problem is no one addresses why it’s ok for a woman to hit and man, and get away with it. I don’t care if men are stronger than us it doesn’t matter, and it’s not a one-time thing women do it all the time. I personally believe if a woman puts her hands on a man, she should receive the same judgment he would face; we can’t scream we want equality on somethings and not everything. To make matters worse a man can’t go to the cops and say he was beaten by a woman because they would either think he was lying or look at him sideways for telling. But, don’t let that same man, go and hit the woman back..oh no don’t do that because then it becomes ” how could you?”, ” Weren’t you raised better than that?”. UMM hello, was she raised better than that? because the last time I checked my mother always told me to never put my hands on a man.

3, Interracial Dating:    1

This hits home in personal ways, as I stated before, I like men of all colors but I prefer white men. I just find them very attractive, me personally its a to each its own thing; I don’t judge anyone on their preference of love and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with dating outside your race. To me, love has no color, but from my experience with interracial dating, there are a lot of double standards surrounding it. For example, why is it socially acceptable for a black man to be with a white woman, but when a black woman chooses to date a white man the world loses it? I was on an online dating site (tagged), and I made a comment stating I preferred caucasian men, the backlash I received was horrible. The thing that shocked me the most was the fact that the negative comments weren’t coming from white women, but from black men and women. I received comments that said “why are you dating them, don’t be surprised if he’s only doing it for fun”, ” wow way to sell out”, “know your history”, “what did a black man do to you”. I couldn’t believe this. Yet, in the same breathe some of them were liking and commenting on white women’s pictures. So that leads me to believe they were just hypocrites, it’s ok if you do it I just can’t. Let me say this ” grow the f*&^ up!” it’s 2018, everyone should be allowed to date whomever they want and you definitely can’t say anything to me when you’re doing the same thing. I’m no trader just because I prefer to date a white man, I’m not “selling out”, because I choose to follow my heart. Cut the crap and give me a break.

4, Sensitive Men:  images

        Although this quote isn’t mine I stand by it 110%, why is it okay for a woman to be sensitive and go through our thousands of mood swings, but men aren’t allowed to.? I for one think it is completely fine for a man to be able to express his feelings, since when was it considered weak for a man to express his emotions? Why were they given emotions if they’re not supposed to use them? Then women have the audacity to say “oh he doesn’t open up to me, I don’t understand”, or ” why is he so cold-hearted?” Um… maybe because he has been conditioned by society and its twisted beliefs that a man who expresses himself is soft. When in actuality a sensitive man is quite the opposite, I see nothing wrong with a man that cries when he’s hurt. I couldn’t imagine having all of that bottled up inside and being afraid to let it out because I don’t want to be seen as a punk. To go to your significant other and say “I’m hurting right now” only for her to tell you that your acting like a woman. Exactly what does that mean? I’ve had a sensitive partner and there was nothing wrong with that, the turmoil came because I was telling him it makes him more of a man because he could express himself. Society and his friends were telling him if he cried he’d be considered a punk or whipped. Let a man express himself if they can listen to us cry, yell, fight, and curse, why can’t we do the same for them?

5, Sexual Partners2

Ladies and Gentleman, we have reached the last of my list, but I saved the best for last, question, why is it considered cool when a man has multiple sex partners, but when a woman does it she’s considered a whore? I can’t stand this double standard, it really burns me because I don’t think there’s anything wrong with a woman who has multiple sex partners. I mean who am I to judge anything and how are you giving him hi-fives but turn around and call her a slut? This goes out to all the men out there, SAVE IT, you guys attack a woman for this? but yet your quick to ask a woman for sex and when she turns you down she considered stuck up, holding out, and a tease. But if she puts out she’s considered easy, a slut, thirsty, loving the crew. Whatever term you wish to use it still wrong none the less, we scream for equality but when it presents itself you turn away from it. Just because a woman wants to date, talk to, or have sex with multiple men doesn’t make her a slut and if you’re going to consider her a slut, by all means, please consider then man to be the same way. His crime was not less than her’s.

   At the end of the day, gender does not determine anything, if one can do it the other can as well and if one cant then neither can the other. Stop blurring the line between what’s right and wrong based on gender. Welp ladies and Gentlemen in the words of Ron Burgundy…

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Until Next Time….

 

 

The Catfish Saga Continues

I’m sure in one of my post you have heard me speak on catfishing and my experience with it; well let me tell you it hasn’t gotten any better. In fact, I just recently had to stop talking to a guy because I found out he lied about who he was. Before I get into my feelings on catfishing I’ll tell you what happened; So while I was posting a picture to my Instagram I got a notification that someone had dm’ed me. I didn’t know who the guy was and I never saw him before but he was gorgeous like super gorgeous.

blog  I mean panty dropping, heart-stopping gorgeous, we chatted and he wanted to get to know me. Of course in the back of my mind is like “ok now what do you really want?”, because to me it screamed Scam City. I talked to some friends about my feelings, I told them about the doubts, my body just screamed this isn’t right but I’m always like that. So one of my close friends say “don’t worry give him the benefit of the doubt you know how you do”, my other friend said, ” if it doesn’t feel right then don’t do it… but who knows?”. So, between the two I decided to go ahead and talk to the guy. At first, it was simple introductions you know the typical ” how are you?”, ” what you up to?”.  I didn’t get any bad vibes in the beginning so I went with it, we said our goodbyes and that was that. The next day he contacted me again, I thought it was cute that he was showing so much interest; we started chatting more and somewhere along the line he wanted to date. I told him no, because, I was having trust issues and I wasn’t sure how I felt about him; I decided that we were going to just be friends and let whatever happens, happen naturally. He would hit me up from time to time just to say hi and see how I was, I thought it was cute; a week later he decided to try again and ask if we could date. This time I said okay, I know it was stupid on my part, he would send me videos from time to time and let me tell you they looked soo real; he seemed like a really sweet guy. He never asked me for money, all he did was talk to me like any normal man would.

trouble            That’s right you read it, I should have run for the hills when I got the chance but noo, I just had to go against my better judgment. As our conversations progressed I noticed after 7 p.m. he would disappear, but not only that he never called and when I tried to talk to him about it he deflected the question and always changed the subject. My curiosity got the better of me, and I decided I would do a reverse search on a picture he gave and ZING!! he turned out to be a bodybuilder. I was pissed because, at the end of the day, I had always been honest from the beginning. When I sent him the information I found he confessed, and that was the end of that. So to make sure no one else goes through what I went through, these are the five signs you’re being catfished.

  1. They refuse to talk on the phone. – Always be cautious if someone doesn’t want to be on the phone because they could be in a relationship and can’t talk out of fear of getting caught.
  2. They’re always on the move.– Let’s be real nobody and I mean nobody is ripping and running the streets 24/7. At some point, you have to have some downtime unless you want to appear busy so you never have to meet someone.
  3. Their profile has tons of errors. – You and I both know there’s an app named Grammarly if a person page has a ton of grammatical errors, or they sound like they speak broken English. More than likely there from another country trying to pass as American.
  4. They get serious way too quickly.– Ok, this has to be hands down the most obvious sign, yet, it’s also the most overlooked. If you’re talking to someone and they start talking about being in love with you or calling you baby and you’ve only been talking for two or three days… yep… that’s right WELCOME TO CATFISH LANE.
  5. They ask for cash a lot.– If you’re talking to someone and they ask you to give them $50 dollars her $100 dollars there, and you begin to become a personal atm no matter how long you’ve been talking your being catfished they’re only after you’re money.

                                              end                                                      Let me say this, I don’t care how you feel about yourself; if you have to steal someone’s pictures and create a different identity just to get their attention. You’re probably attracting the wrong kind of people, it is never okay to steal someones personal photos and pass them off as someone else. There are feelings involve, and you never once take into consideration that everything that’s done in the dark comes to light, it may seem like you’re getting away with it but you’re not. Think of it this way, suppose you’re a great guy, you say all the right things and you grasp someone’s attention. You guys make a connection but due to the fact that you’re not who you say you are, the guilt begins to eat you alive. Yet, you’re too afraid to tell the woman who you are because you know she would leave. Is it really worth the heartache the both of you will go through? I don’t think it is; you can’t play with someone’s emotions just because you’re insecure with either what you have or who you are. Online dating is becoming far too dangerous, the only thing its doing is making it easier for a new form of identity theft. I mean take into consideration the person’s images you’re using. Can you imagine all the hateful e-mails and sad stories they have read, because they’ve been accused of something that never happened? We have to stop this, to all of those who like myself choose to date online, please pay attention to your gut if it’s saying something is up more than likely it is…. and to those who are catfishing people for the hell of it no caring who’s feelings you hurt…

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Until next time…

A Dangerous Game

Hey guys, have you ever met someone and everything seems to be going perfect, but slowly you’re starting to see red flags? You try to convince yourself that maybe you’re just seeing things, or maybe you’re just so broken from the people before that everything seems like a flag. I have heard this many times, I myself struggle with this constant feeling; it eats you alive and you look at people differently. I wasn’t always like this though, I use to be so optimistic, I use to be alive, I use to be vibrant, I use to see the good in everyone…Naive right? Over the years my heart has hardened, a defense against all the lies, games, and scams. Against the ” I’m here for you baby always and forever”, ” I love you with all my heart”, “I promise to never hurt you”. Let me explain something to you… I don’t know if you know this but, when you use such statements and promises to anyone, there is a chance that they might actually hold you to these promises.

                                               surprise                                                             Surprised right? You may think this is a joke but it’s not, somewhere right now some poor soul is being verbally fed a line of crap. You know what the sad part is? The person feeding them has no intentions on following through with anything they’re saying. It hurts to know people can be so cruel, what’s the point of conversing with me if you have no intentions on following through? Back in the day (before my generation), when you dated someone or took the time to get to know someone the end goal was MARRIAGE. That’s right ladies and gentlemen MARRIAGE. You didn’t serial date people for the heck of it, there were no competitions on seeing who could bag the most women, or who has the highest body count. Now its a load of bull@#$*, now its taken out of context, now when you say the words “I Love You”,  its like saying thank you after a sneeze. The word LOVE used to hold so much worth but has been reduced to mere pleasantries. The problem is, there are far too many people playing games, too many fools who are emotionally unavailable; but instead of battling their demons, they choose to spread the sick disease to the rest of us.

      You’re playing a very dangerous game when you play with the emotions of a person who has been broken so many times. If I go out of my way, to be honest, and tell you that I have been hurt and lied too; why would you even think it was okay to play games with me in the first place. Do you know how hard it is for a person who has trust issues to put it all aside and take a chance with you? The nights we sit up and worry if we’ve made a mistake in letting our guards down? The LEAST you could do is be honest with your intentions. Stop being cowards hiding behind lies and promises when you know you were never going to be shit anyway.

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      So, this guy writes me online, of course, my first instinct is to be like ” nah, not going to happen”, but I figured I needed to come out of my comfort zone. This could be something, but if I let my fears take control I might miss out on a blessing; so I decided to write him back. He asked me how I was and proceeded to have a conversation with me, he was a sweet guy never overstepping his boundaries. He would write me every day, some days it was just to see how I was, others were deep conversations about life. I’m a grown woman so I can admit that I am naive, I wanted “love” so bad that I missed all the flags. I missed the fact that we never video chatted, I missed the fact that he never stayed on the phone long, I missed the fact that he only contacted me at certain times of the day. I was so swept up in his sweet words and his amazing appearance, that I didn’t see what was right in front of me. Against my better judgment, I decided to accept his proposal of being in a committed relationship; honestly, I thought it was going to be something magical. However, it was filled with arguments, nights of crying, I worried about where he was? what was he doing? was he being truthful? why does he only contact me at certain times? why does he deflect all of my questions? Most importantly why am I still in this relationship?

      It took me 3 months to answer that question and I finally realized I just wanted to feel wanted by someone. 

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     I wanted to feel love, I wanted to feel like I mattered to someone other than my family, I believed every lie he told even though I knew it wasn’t the truth. I made myself stupid just so I could accept the bull he was feeding me, it’s funny what a broken person will do just to feel whole again. Eventually, I got tired of the games and when I got tired of playing I wanted out, but he would continuously feed me the same line on how much I meant to him. Or, tell me I was the most important person in his life. You know what? for the sake of not being alone I almost believed him, but then my brain and heart were like…

stop playing

    So I let it all go, but I have noticed since that day my faith in men has dwindled to almost nonexistent, I don’t trust them anymore. Im, sure there are some good ones left, but after going through what I have, I’m too tired to even fight anymore. I’m too tired to play the game of LOVE. It a very dangerous game to play and people can get seriously hurt, it’s just, not something I’m will deal with any longer. Do I want to love? YES, however, am I willing to turn a blind eye for the sake of having someone in my life, just so he can lie to me and have me out here looking like a damn fool? NO; and to the next guy that thinks he will play with my emotions and stomp on my heart. Be careful when you playing that dangerous games, because unlike me…

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Until next time…

 

To: Those waiting for the PERFECT ONE

Let me start by saying this there is no such thing as the PERFECT anything, I don’t care what anyone says if they tell you there is a perfect person its a lie. I’m willing to debate anyone on this subject. So this is for the billions of men and women looking for that Mr/Mrs. perfect.

Waiting for the perfect man To HerDear Ladies,

        There is no such thing as a  perfect man, honestly, think about it this way how many men have you come across in your lifetime? have you not always found something in them that you didn’t like? Maybe this one was too short, too tall, too long down below, not long enough down below, too fat, too muscular, too arrogant, not confident enough, too much of a player, too much of a jerk, too selfish. I mean seriously the list goes on; but that’s the problem sis we have to stop trying to find a man that will treat us like the characters in a Disney movie. They don’t exist, I’m guilty of this as well, I wanted the perfect man; I wanted him to be everything I wanted him to be. I wanted him to know the count of my heartbeat, I wanted him to know when I was happy, sad, scared, hurt when I wasn’t feeling good about myself. I wanted him to be in the kitchen with me every day, I wanted this human to do so many unrealistic things and in reality, with each characteristic, I was adding to my perfect man wish list, I didn’t know I was pushing men away.

           They don’t have time to be magician’s and fulfill all of your dreams, plus be the breadwinner in the family; fight the bullies, be a sex god, and look like Adonis at the same time. That’s just unfair and unrealistic, we can’t expect them to give us validation when we don’t feel good about ourselves. Men love differently then we do, you want him to say ” hey baby, I just wanted to let you know you’re the most beautiful girl in the world and I only have eyes for you. Every time I see you my heart skips a beat. I’m the luckiest man in the world because I have you”. However, he will say “you okay? you need anything? you eat today? be safe, you look cute, I’m here if you need me”. It doesn’t mean he loves you any less, it’s just his way of expressing himself. Men are not feminine they’re not designed to be al mushy. They’re designed to protect, provide, and populate, can we really fault them for being themselves? In the same instance know when a man is playing games with your heart, because they’re designed to gather whether it is things or women. (no offense men), but they’re not the brightest when it comes to communication, so please don’t expect them to read your mind, and don’t fault them if your in an argument and they don’t apologize the exact way you had it in your head, we don’t think the same. 

 

waiting TO HIMDear Men,

        Let’s get a few things straight women come in all different shapes and sizes and it’s very disrespectful for you guy’s to think that women are supposed to look like Kim Kardashian, Rhianna, Beyonce, and any other crazy fantasy you may have. Women are sensitive creatures we are designed to be that way. We are here to nurture, there is no such thing as the perfect woman, you’re never going to find a woman that will have the body of a gymnast after popping out babies. There is no such thing as a woman who will not nag, watch all the sports you like, cook 24/7, not feel insecure at some point, want sex every night. No woman is going to look pretty 24/7, we are not paintings or magazines that are only here for you to stare at that’s unrealistic. Women like attention, you’re not going to find a woman that’s okay with you spending all your time with your guys while we sit in the house and watch chick flicks all day. We are not going to cater to your every whim, at some point you do have to do things for yourself. You’re not going to find a woman who will be totally ok with you sleeping around with multiple women, you’re not going to find a woman who will not expect you to have some form of communication with her.

       You will not find a woman who won’t cry when you hurt her feelings. We are not one of your boys so please stop treating us like so. Be more accepting and top spending so much time with your head in the magazines or staring at models thinking that’s what beauty is and everyone should look like that. No, you’re not going to find a woman ok with you being sarcastic, we do not like when you’re wishy-washy; don’t be all lovey-dovey when it’s just us, then neglect us when you’re around your guys. You’re never going to find a woman who will be okay with letting you play the games all day, never doing chores, and picking up after you 24/7. We are partners not maids. Women love differently, don’t deny us when we try to see how you’re doing, or when we want to do something special for you. Stop telling us lies as if we don’t know you well enough to know when your telling lies its an insult to our intelligence. We like adventure, sometimes you have to be romantic no we don’t expect it 24/7, however, gentlemen we do expect it. By the way, we do still believe in gentlemen and chivalry.

    moral

There is no perfect man/ woman!!!!

Seriously, folks, I’m not making this up, everyone is going to have some type of flaw or come with some type of baggage. However, the key to love is finding what suits YOU, what type of baggage are you okay with? My mother once said, “Charyse, sometimes you have to be a fool for love”. I didn’t understand it at first but I do now, she was saying sometimes you have to be willing to turn a blind eye, not every battle is worth fighting and sometimes its ok to back down from an argument for the sake of saving your relationship. It’s not being dumb it’s being smart enough to know that everyone has faults, the grass isn’t greener on the other side, everything that glitters isn’t gold and all that good stuff.

 

So until next time…

Momma’s Coffee Molasses Pork Roast

Hey Guys, you ever ate a certain dish and it was so good that you could eat it every day? well, that’s my mothers Pork Roast. I decided to share the recipe with you guys, let me know what you think.

Things you will need:

ingredients

– 2 or 3lbs Pork Roast, -Coffee, -Molasses, -Apple Cider Vinegar, -Garlic, -Dijon Mustard, -Thyme, -Salt, -Pepper, -Worcester Sauce, -Coke, -Dutch Oven,

Sauce

sauce

1 cup black coffee

1/2 cups molasses (Grandmas)

2 tbsp. apple cider vinegar

2 tbsp. minced garlic

1 tbsp. dijon mustard

1/2 tbsp. thyme

1/2 tsp. salt and pepper

2 dashes Worcester sauce

1/4 cup of coke

Pork

coffee

Season For Pork

(To your own tasting preference)

-salt

-sazon

-pepper

-garlic powder

Let’s Get Cooking

cooking

Slice fat cap back(The fat cap it the thick layer of fat on top of the meat) not all the way but enough to place seasonings under it. Place under the fat cap, fold fat cap back over, pierce fat cap 10x and stuff each hole with whole cloves.

Mix all sauce ingredients in a dutch oven, let boil for about 2-4 minutes ( Be careful not to burn sauce, only let it come to a slight rolling boil). Once the sauce boils add your pork roast.

Then place dutch oven in the oven @ 350 degrees for 3- 4 hours. ( Make sure meat is very tender)

Add any sides you want and enjoy…

Remember, as long as you have a recipe and you follow it to a T…

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